WHO TOOK AWAY YOUR VIRGINITY?

For some they can't even remember who or when they were deflowered.It is like '100 years' ago.Or perhaps 100 persons ago.Being a virgin is out of vogue today.Or isnt it?

A certain lady on a chat with me on FB registered her frustration.She said that she was still a virgin and that her friends had been pressuring her to do away with it.

She was 28.That is what amazed me.However, I probed further, "How truly virgin are you?" To which she said, "I have done every other stuff aside real sex". A virgin indeed.Ok let us call her a TECHNICAL VIRGIN.

I have always wanted to have 2 lovely girls...but with recent findings and discoveries I think I am changing my mind.lol.Let me go with the boys.Seriously, if only 2 in every 8 matured lady of 20 is a virgin then I wonder what the statistics would be like when OUR daughters are aged 20?God help us.

The person who took your virginity took away your SOUL.He or she took away your gift to your spouse.He or she took away your naivety; took away your blood gift to him or her. He or she took away your humility, such that you have no opportunity to look at your spouse on your marital bed and say, "please teach me".

Let us encourage our younger ones to KEEP their virginity.Forget the condom stuff. How many even use it at all? And for you who is reading this and saying, "So what do I do?"

Here is my advice to you.You cannot be a virgin bodily again but you can be mentally.All you simply have to do is give yourself a SEX BREAK.May be for another one year.Let your soul be restored.Let your mind be renewed.Don't sleep with the one you intend to get married to.Tell him/her you have a surprise for him/her on the wedding night.And then on that day CARRY NO ONE ALONG IN YOUR MIND TO THAT BED. Time restores the mind and so makes you a 'mental virgin' again.

THE COURAGE TO BE ORIGINAL

Many people die as copies. To die a copy is to die a slave. Masters are original. Personal mastery is stamping your originality on earth. The copy adapts himself to the world. The original adopts the world to himself.

Imitation is limitation.

Julius Charles Hare once said, ‘ Be what you are. This the first step towards becoming better than you are’. Look at how Samuel Johnson puts it. He says, ‘There lurks , perhaps in every human heart a desire of distinction, which inclines every man first to hope and then to believe , that Nature has given him something peculiar to himself’. How so true.

Personal mastery is being a first rate version of yourself instead of a second-rate version of somebody else. Listen to legendary playwright, William Shakespeare, speak, ‘God has given you one face, and you make yourself another’. That quote reminds me of this story. A certain woman was told she would die from cancer before she would be 40, and she was few months away. She prayed to God on her sick bed and God told her, ‘I will add 32 more years to your life’. His voice was so clear and distinct to her. She got better and healed from the cancer to the amazement of the doctors. A few months later, she was back to the hospital. This time to do a facial plastic surgery. She was now on a beauty therapy. The day she was released from the surgery to go home with a new face, she crossed the road and was hit by an ambulance. She died. When she got up to meet God, the story says, she asked God, ‘But I thought you said you will add 32 more years to my life’. God replied, ‘I am sorry dear. I didn’t recognize you.’

Personal mastery is being you, and having no apologies for being that. Andre Gide once said, ‘It is better to be hated for what you are than to be loved for something you are not’

Dare to be different. Dare to be ‘you’. The reward for conformity is that everyone likes you except yourself. There is just one life for each of us, our own. Live it. It takes a lot of courage to grow up and become who you really are.

Remember this: Not all those who wander are lost. One who walks in another man’s track leaves no footprint. Here is how R.W. Emerson, who was said to be the wisest man in America in his time, puts it. He says, ‘Do not follow where the path may lead. Go, instead, where there is no path and leave behind a trail.

You are a master when you have your own opinion. You are a master when you make your choices and accept the consequences. You are a master when you stand out from the crowd rather than blend in. Anatole France once said, ‘If 50 million people say a foolish thing. It is still foolish thing’. George Patton said, ‘If everyone is thinking alike, then somebody isn’t thinking.’ I love how Mark Twain , essayist, critic and philosopher, put it. He said, ‘Whenever you find yourself on the side of the majority, it is time to pause and reflect’

The opposite of courage is not cowardice, it is conformity. Fashion is what you adopt when you don’t know who you are. Most people prefer belief to the exercise of judgment.

‘When a true genius appears’, said Jonathan Swift, ‘you may know him by this sign, that the dunces are all the confederacy’. True. Very true. To be a genuine original requires a great deal of courage strength and belief in oneself. It is not easy to chart new territory, to cross new frontiers or to introduce subtle shadings to an established colour.

Let me close this chapter with words of R. W. Emerson. He says, ‘ Whatever you do, you need courage. Whatever course you decide upon, there is always someone to tell you are wrong. There are always difficulties arising which tempt you to believe that your critics are right. To map out a course of action and to follow it to the end, require some courage which a soldier needs. Peace has its victories , but it takes brave men to win them.

BEFORYOU SAY "I DO"

BEFORE YOU SAY “I DO”

We all have nasty habits. Some have an odour, a belch , an attitude, a habit that may not be pleasant. What can you tolerate? How much can you tolerate? You should be able to stay with him/her in the toilet and not feel that that smell is offensive. You should be able to kiss him or her and not feel any repulsion(a physical activity like kissing before marry can lead to premarital sex; I use the last line only to buttress a point).

Young woman, you grew up in poverty, struggled to pay your fees, and got a job, now a scraggy looking, ‘my-future-is-bright’ fellow says he wants to marry you. If that is okay for you, go for it. If you see his potential and believe you can both make it together, no problem. But if it doesn’t feel right, if you think you should have a break, if you think that your prince in charming and shining armour should be rich, go for it girl. Especially if he is around the corner. You deserve the best. Go for what you want, what you deserve. Having said this ,remember that it is true that there is no guarantee that that young , poor man will become richer in the next 5 years. But there is also no guarantee that that old, rich man will remain rich in the next 5 years. Life is about twists and turns. Your choice should be based on personal conviction and tolerance. God tests every relationship at the point of its motive.

James Odili started relating with Julliet Bassey, and at some point decided that he could marry her. But he didn’t have money. While Julliet Bassey loved him, she kept seeing one banker who worked in a certain bank. Eventually, she broke his heart and married that banker. James Odili was devastated. He was devastated that his heart throb of so many years could do that to him. And he did go to beg her. His pleas fell on deaf ears.

A few months after she left, he got into Shell Training School and eventually got a job with them. Then Julliet’s banker husband lost her job and she was now the one devastated. By this time, James had gotten married to someone else. The other day James Odili himself told me that they met.He met Julliet after a few years.
“I wish I had married you”, she told him. “I thought I would be happy , but I am not. May be I married him for financial security reasons. But now that it is not there, I don’t know whether I love him or not.”
Shame. Remember: God tests every relationship at the point of its motive.

There will be many things you will have to tolerate. If you can’t tolerate, don’t commit martially. Why? You will be tested along those lines. Young man, here is some wisdom for you : Marry when you are still striving. ANY LADY who says yes to your proposal then and goes ahead to marry you, loves you. If you propose to ANY LADY when you have a Pajero jeep, live in a well furnished house, work in a N4OO,OOO a month salary outfit, SHE WILL SAY ‘YES’...and usually she isn't the one. Be smart...it is difficult to see a virtuous woman when you are made

Can you tolerate his/her nasty, petty habits? Do you think you can suffer long with this person in sickness or in health?

There is this saying that marriage is for enjoyment, not endurance. I disagree. I think marriage is about both: enjoyment and endurance. Marriage is not a fairy tale story. It never ends with ‘and they lived happily after’. Life ends its story with ‘and they lived happily to the degree to which they made their marriage work’
Marriage is hard work. Are you ready?

ABOUT GEORGE ESSIEN PPC (NIGERIA'S PEAK PERFORMANCE COACH)

ABOUT GEORGE ESSIEN PPC(NIGERIA'S PEAK PERFORMANCE COACH)

With carefully crafted words that have been known for ages to cause severe stir to people’s internal conditioning, George Essien helps people to become the best they can be. This dynamic, fast paced, insightful punch liner, is any audience’s want. A Television delight and Radio regular, George’s motivational expertise enables him speak around the nation at conferences, workshops, seminars, summits and events. He the first in Nigeria to designated PEAK PERFORMANCE CONSULTANT(PPC)

He is the convener of biannually CONFERENCE OF ORATORS, a program for speakers and BUSINESS WOMEN SUMMIT, a summit dedicated to helping women embrace entrepreneurship and independence. As business trainer, he has helped trained hundreds of people in the rural communities by showing them how produce ,package and promote products like soap, cream, bleach, detergents and many more.

For more than 5 years this Microbiologist turn professional speaker and teacher has shaped the minds of hundreds of thousands of people ,including his numerous seminar attendees who attend his YIELDING EXPONENTIAL SUCCESS (YES!) Seminars regularly. He is the publisher of the GET INSPIRED! Magazine and the author of 5 bestselling books. His books include: (1)SALARY IS ADDICTIVE; (2)HOW TO MAKE IT ANYWHERE; (3)THE OWNERSHIP MENTALITY; (4)PERSONAL MASTERY; (5)SEQUENCE OF SUCCESS; (6)SPEECH POWER; (7)BEHAVIOUR OF MONEY; (7)HOW TO SELL ANYTHING TO ANYONE; (8)COMPATIBILITY TESTS BEFORE YOU SAY ‘I DO’ ; (9)IDEAS; (10)HOW TO GENERATE FUNDS FOR YOUR PROJECT.

George Essien is also a creative writer who uses stories and anecdotes especially in novel format to share universal truths and principles. Some of these works include: (1) UNSUNG HEROES (2) THAT GIRL (3) SAME GIRL (3) LUCKY MONEY (4)PAST SHADOWS (5) LIP WORK (6) BUSINESS INTELLIGENCE and many more still in the pipe line.

George Essien is the presenter of a weekly television program called THOUGHTS OF THE WEEK and he is a columnist in numerous National magazines.

He is the CHIEF INSPIRATIONAL OFFICER of POWERMINDS COMMUNITY , a human development organization. He has worked with many organizations, helping them motivate their staff members to be more productive and effective. He may be reached for speaking engagements through the following powermindscommunity@yahoo.com, essien_success@yahoo.com, mrgeorgeessien@gmail.com.. Follow him on twitter @GeorgeEssienPPC. Or on Facebook@ George Essien or you may call him on08023487133153

 

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WRONG FACTS MANY PEOPLE ABOUT RELATIONSHIPS AND MARRIAGE

WRONG FACTS MANY PEOPLE BELIEVE ABOUT RELATIONSHIPS AND MARRIAGE:

(1)That God has created ONE man for ONE woman.
(2)That God finds your spouse for you
(3)That Marriage is your key to happiness
(4)That the feeling of love makes a great marriage

THE TRUTH:
(1)There are many persons whom God has created that can fit as your spouse.
(2)That a man does the finding, a woman does the positioning, and God does the supervising
(3)That some people are better of singles for the purpose of their assignments.
(4)That any marriage can work if the 2 people involved work it out.
(5)That it is RESPONSIBILITY(The acts of love) that sustains marriage,not just the feeling of love.

CONFERENCE OF ORATORS III

CONFERENCE OF ORATORS III:sms 'ORATOR',your location and name to 08187133153

VENUE CAPACITY: 100(EARLY SENDING OF SMS IS ADVISED)

THEME: Making Money From Your Intellectual Property
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FOR WHO?:Speakers,Teachers,Pastors,Leaders,TV personalities and every one interested in public speaking

DATE:Sat,30th of June 2012

RESOURCE PERSONS:GEORGE ESSIEN(CIO, POWERMINDS COMMUNITY), ELDER NNAMSO UMOREN(PRESIDENT, TALENT BUSINESS SCHOOL), INIM UTIAROK(CEO, WORD POWER SCHOOL OF SPEAKERS),TOM LAWRENCE AKPAN(CEO. FIRSTBORN FOUNDATION)

Time: 10am

REG: FREE(except for compulsory manual of N400).
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